greetings
'whatup bro?'
'nothing'
'oh true? .....sweet.'
just been thinking about the way i deal with people lately, and alot of my conversation starters revolve around that sort of thing from both directions, or:
'how are you?'
'aight'
'thats good.'
is that because it is my culture? or the way my society interacts? are those answers/questions my default settings for user interaction?
i obviously realise i can change what i say, but by using these 'templates', does that show i am unwilling to communicate, or simply not excited about the conversation taking place.
i mean, obviously you can't go deep and meaningful on everybody that you interact with everyday, but surely, apart from not talking to somebody, this most be about the minimal contact you can have with another person. if a conversation is for giving and taking / sharing information, then there's not a whole lot happening in those examples.
i'm not really sure where i'm going with this. feel free to drop your comments.
peace out. carl.
posted by carl @ 8:57 am
6 Comments:
The same thing happens in the chat room. There are so many people coming in that you'll miss them or don't get more than a "what's up?" "nuthin", or you're too lathargic to kick your brain into gear and start a real conversation. That's the pattern I got into I guess because I'm supposed to be "monitoring" them.
Every now and then I'll throw a controversial bone in to get the dogs scrapping and a good debate going. But for the most part without a kick start people will usually sit there like they're watching a soap on tv and not interact. Makes for very dull conversations. (come in and check it out sometime! lol christianchat.com) Perhaps TV is to blame for this attitude? Guess not, you don't have one ;-)
Well maybe TV is still to blame because of it's effect on society as a whole. Most nowdays want to observe rather than interact I think.
Observing being easier than interracting? lazyness? or would it be protecting themselves in some way?
Ok. now I'm the one rambling.
I think also when people ask "hows it going?" most of the time they don't want to know. They are just saying hi. So I think as christians if we ask someone "hows it going?" we should actually listen to how they really are. Just a though from brain of Sam.
yeah if i really want to know how somebodies going, i usually ask multiple times. its pretty wack. but it gets to the heart of the matter. and also shows that the enquirer really cares about the other participant.
cheers,
carl
Proverbs 20:5
5 The purposes of a man's heart are deep waters,
but a man of understanding draws them out.
Reminds me of this verse that we studied at Grace in the couselling course. Good post Carl and an interesting question to raise.
Sam Duthie the man is particulary good at asking the 'how are you question' and then seeking a clarified answer. That is nice.
Yeah i've been thinkin bout this lately too...like how often do we get past the small talk to really find out how a person is? we're all really good at putting up fronts n stuff, like for example 'how are you?' usually people will just respond 'good' or 'pretty good' or something to that effect. i mean not that small talks wrong or wateva but ya know, how often do we have a good conversation with our friends etc?
so yeah pretty much what ya said heh
I'm a'ight
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